10 Things that You Can do to Make Your Husband Want to Bond with You.

10 Things that You can do to Make Your Husband Want to Bond with You

#1. Take Back Your Bedroom.
It should be a retreat, a relaxing get away. Not a place to pile up laundry, stack unfinished projects or plunk the changing table.  Clear out the clutter so your room can be relaxing, not stressful. Limiting the visual noise of ‘unnecessary stuff’ will greatly enhance the feelings of calm, peace and connectedness you experience as a couple. Make your bedroom a haven from the world.
Frame photos of you as a couple and for crying out loud please take the picture of your mother off the wall. This is not a place to display family photos. Your bedroom should be a place that celebrates the two of you... just the two of you. Move your kids school pictures to the hallway or family room. Your bedroom is not about your kids. They have a glorious way of taking over a house. But your bedroom is the one room they should not be center stage… or even on the stage for that matter.
Whatever you love to do as a couple, wherever you have traveled together, find a way to capture those memories and put them on display in your bedroom. Get rid of meaningless art work and replace with custom photos, collections, keepsakes- things that remind you of the times you've shared and memories you've made. Oh and if you still have your kids sleeping in your bed, that ends-like tonight. Seriously.

#2. Find Your Want To
It's one thing to be willing to be intimate with your husband. Its another thing entirely to want to be intimate with him. He knows the difference. Get help if needed but do whatever it takes to find a desire for your husband! This will mean everything to your man. When you want to open up to him sexually he will want to open up to you emotionally. This may mean you need to begin caring about your body. No woman wants to be intimate if she lacks confidence in her appearance. First of all, know that your man is likely more attracted to you than you realize and those few extra pounds really don’t bother him. However, if you have let yourself go, that is simply not fair to your husband, nor is it healthy for you. DO something about it. The vitality of your marriage bond hinges upon you being at your very best. When you feel attractive you will act attractive. That’s just how it works ladies. 
P.S. Some of you may need to pay a visit to a certain store that’s well, a Secret of sorts… to find some little things that might help you out in this Feeling Attractive Dept. Really just go there. Pay a ridiculous amount of money on a very tiny piece of material-your marriage is worth it!

#3. Pitch the PJ's
 Yup, that’s what I said. Pitch your jammies!!  Please throw away right this moment any flannel pjs you own, pitch the oversized sweatpants too and grubby, baggy t-shirts while you are at it. There is something very powerful about skin to skin touch.  So- go to bed with as little on as possible. This will bond you as a couple in ways you cannot imagine. Take baby steps if need be but make it your goal to sleep with your man skin to skin. The warmth. The connectedness. The oneness. It goes beyond the physical and extends into the emotional and spiritual. Yes, really it does.  The cares of my day and the stress of life melt away each night as my husband and I snuggle in bed skin to skin. Its healthy in every way.  I am convinced. Please just  get over yourself, quit having a fit about it, deal with your insecurities, stop listening to the lies in your head  and start being comfortable enough with your soul mate to take off the PJ’s- for good! After all isn't THIS what you had in mind before you got married?!
P.S.  I will include my address at the bottom of this article incase your man wants to write me a personal  check to say “THANK YOU KIND LADY! I AM SUCH  A HAPPY MAN NOW!”

#4. Enjoy the Game.
Whether that’s hunting, football or golf. Get into what he gets into. Snuggle up on the couch with him for the big game. Offer to hold him in your arms while you massage his head. Doesn't mean you have to love the game but if you love him just be present with him while he does his thing. Be his friend. Sit out in the garage reading a book while he changes oil on the car. Listen with interest as he recounts his hunting adventures. Don't be so busy being a mother to your kids, a mother to your husband  or an OCD housekeeper that you forget to be your man’s friend and lover.

#5.Go Knee to Knee
Remember when you were dating, how you longed to look into your man’s eyes while having conversations?  Do THAT again.  I know, I know, that was then- back when life seemed simpler. Now that life is busy you probably have conversations on the run- while cooking dinner, picking up toys, sitting in the bleachers or driving in the car. Not exactly bonding moments are they?  As married couples we can actually go days without looking at each other longer than a few seconds.  So make it a habit to spend time connecting each day by going knee to knee.  Whether that’s sitting on the couch unpacking the day,  holding each other close while making eye contact for several minutes,  going out for coffee while sitting across from each other, or  in bed  facing each other before you fall asleep sharing in a conversation. The point is-LOOK at each other again every day for a least a handful of minutes.  Hello- closeness!!

#6. Don’t Nag.
 Please tell me that you do not  need me to explain.

#7. Be His Number One Fan and Biggest Cheerleader.
Let him know you think he’s AMAZING. Be specific. Speak words of affirmation-even if you think he already knows. Most men fear failing or not having what it takes. Make sure you build him up. Yes, even when you are mad at him or think he is blowing it in one area. That shouldn't stop you from affirming him in another. Remember, some of your husbands have plenty of darling women at the office giving him attention and adoration. Make sure his woman (that'd be you)  is first in line to tell him he’s all that… and more. If he doesn't feel like Superman around you, sweet thing, you need to step it up!! Yeah, I know, you long for praise too. You need affirmation from him. I get that, but I am not writing this to them I am writing this to us. We need to do what we can… and as you do he will respond back to you- in time, you'll see.

#8. Stop Talking so Much.
 Really just try to cut back... especially the 'repeating of yourself' kind of talking. That'll drive your man away… or nuts… one of the two (I would know) . Enough said. (I should practice what I preach.)

#9 Set Your Alarm 15 Minutes Early
So you can snuggle skin to skin before the day begins ( I didn't even try to make that rhyme. Promise). Lay your head on his chest, wrap your legs tightly around his and start your morning off together. Guaranteed bonding moments! Oh, the little delights in life! (and we haven't even had our cup of coffee! Life is good ladies! )

#10 Don't let WE erode US.
“We” represents your family... ok dog included (cause you know how much work they are!)  We is good but if you are not purposing to prioritize your marriage the We of family will drown out the Us of marriage (you did follow that right?) You were a couple before you had kids. You will be a couple after they leave your nest. Make sure you have something left when they do. This means saying NO to your kids from time to time so you can say YES to your marriage.
    -It means spending money on trips-just the two of you.
    -It means date nights and babysitters.
    -It means saving just as much money for your undergarments as you do for your kids soccer cleats.

It means getting dressed up (you can be comfy and cute you know) and doing your face each day for work- even if your work means never leaving the house as you change your baby's diapers, wipe up sticky countertops  and mop the floor-again. Be darling doing it honey, because your man deserves to have you looking your best when he sees you after work.

It means saving an ounce or two of energy for one another after a long day of work, chasing kids, fixing dinners, attending sporting events and doing laundry.

It means clearing the schedule of kids activities once in a blue moon so you can say “Honey, let’s just be Us tonight”.

It means remembering who you are- you are your man's woman. His wife. Be her well. Give him your very best... he will likely give you his in return. He won't be able to help it and probably won't even know he's doing it... Happy Bonding You Two!